anger management

While domestic violence is an epidemic in our society, it’s rarely as simple as someone simply losing their temper. There are almost always underlying causes for violence, and those causes may not be immediately apparent. That’s why, if you’ve recently been arrested or charged with domestic violence, you’re very possibly feeling a strong combination of guilt and confusion. You may be saying to yourself, “How did this happen? How did I get here? Why did I do that?” If you are, know that this is a very common response—and it can feel this way whether it’s your first DV arrest or if you have prior convictions.

Unless your partner falsely accused you, chances are you know something went terribly wrong to put you in this situation but putting your finger on why can be very elusive. So, let’s take a moment to delve into some of the root causes of domestic violence to gain perspective. As we do this, let’s emphasize that this exploration isn’t about justifying your actions but gaining insight into the dynamics of control, the factors contributing to feelings of losing control, and pathways to seek help and initiate positive change.

Understanding the Dynamics of Control

You never intended for it to happen. You had a disagreement with a member of your family (perhaps a spouse or someone else you love). Emotions escalated, and you lost your temper. Now, you’re facing possible charges of domestic violence. Perhaps you’ve alienated your loved one, and they’re now seeking a protective order against you. The idea fills you with regret—and with shame. What do you do?

Let’s be honest: it is natural to experience feelings of shame and regret after a domestic violence incident—and they can be very difficult to process. But these emotions can also be used as a force for positive change in your life. Let’s explore how to take those negative feelings of shame and regret and use them to create healthier relationships with the people close to you.

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